What I found out wasn’t good.
He was having an affair with other girls. Their names and personality, I didn’t even care to know.
I confronted him about it and I was given two conditions – by him
Stay and help him.
Go and let him deal with it.
Help him ke? Don’t we all need help? By the way, how come he erred and he was giving conditions?
He wasn’t sorry.
I realised he was just being manipulative. I had to leave.
I heard other stories about him later but here I am.
Happy. Fulfilled.
Now over to you superwoman – You know how toxic your partner is but “you don wanna leave there”. Your mental health is important and you don’t want things like this draining your energy.
Someone said I was a playgirl but it is nothing like that. This is just a young lady who wouldn’t condone anything negative around her. It may have been love but I sure know when it should be over, if need be.
Let me tell you of one guy that said he really really wanted me to be his woman.
” Uncle, I am not interested” my village alter ego screamed in my head.
Why she did pop up?
He said to her “I want you to come over to this place (the abroad). I’m honestly waiting. So for your ticket, we’ll split the money. I will bring half and you’ll bring half”
That’s when my alter ego went crazy.
“Chei, Chei. Split? Split air condition or Facebook split test. Did I beg you? Why you wan buy market wey your money no reach? Split money to come and do what? To come and freeze abi be washing plate? Uncle, Iyam not interest!”
Or is it the one that met me in a café and said “the moment I saw you, I knew you were my wife”
In my mind “Oshey! Legend of the seeker. Ultimate café wife finder. Moment definitor. Waka bambam of the universe”
Or is it the one that gave me a lift and all of a sudden, Celine Dion inspired him to fall in love.
In my mind “If you fall, you are on your own. You are too heavy for me to lift you up. I haven’t even lifted myself. You better fall into a ditch or something. That love express dey too risky”
Or is it the one that kept saying “I want a woman that works and knows what she is doing.”
I asked “What do you do?”
He said “For now, I don retire myself o. Na why I dey find woman wey sabi wetin she dey do”
I just asked him “When is your birthday?”
“In the month of May” he answered.
“Remind me to gift you a truck load of pampers. Your woman will need it to babysit you” I told him.
Or is it the one that…
Okay. Let me stop here.
I am not asking you to be bitter to your exes. I don’t subscribe to that thought. Stay kind and don’t burn the bridge as long it was a healthy relationship. I am asking you to know and build yourself so that you’ll have a clear understanding of a quality relationship or a quality man.
I hope you learn to stay when it’s worth it. I hope you learn to walk away when it’s not.
I hope you give your life meaning and intentionally pick a partner who means a lot to you and the world. Your life and your mind is precious. Give no human the right to mess with it. Despite the challenges that come with being in love, it remains beautiful, pure and harmless.
Never. Forget. That.
Do I love you? Yes, I do.
Do you love me?
PS: I’m giving side eye and standing with a stick for those that with will say no.
